VIDEO – Rejection: Use these tips to make your child actor feel better!

Scenario: Your talented child actor has been auditioning like crazy and has not booked for a long time. To add insult to injury they just had 3 callbacks on a feature film, met the director and producer only to hear they didn’t get the part.  What are you going to do when they express feelings of rejection? How will you help them feel better?

Ok, let’s go back a bit here. First and foremost,  you need to keep the entire acting career  journey fun! This includes, when  driving your child  to auditions all over town and in traffic. So am I saying,  as a parent you should not show your displeasure while in traffic? YES! Children are like sponges and will pick up on your tension and worry. Therefore, train yourself to keep auditioning a fun adventure and do your best NOT to complain.

Remember, your  child is happy being an actor.  Acting is what they want  to do. So, mimic their enthusiasm and enjoy the ride. Your positive attitude will help ease the pain of rejection after they have auditioned 20 times to no avail. The last thing they need is for you to be upset and irritated about the traffic or mad about them not booking..

Another way to help your child feel better is to acknowledge their feelings. When they say,

“ Mom I wish I had gotten that part ,” repeat back to them,  “Oh you wish you had gotten that part… I would be disappointed too.” How much do you like it when you express sadness and someone says, don’t be sad? Well, it’s  the same with children. By acknowledging their feelings you show them you understand and that they matter!

The next step is to divert their attention by offering to go get ice cream or to do something fun. Children are usually willing to move on quickly.  Many times it’s the parent who hangs on to the disappointment.

Here are more tips to help your child handle rejection:

  1. Keep it FUN!
  2. Remind them they are talented!
  3. Tell them that no actor gets every job they audition for.
  4. Let them know it is common to go to many auditions before booking.
  5. Keep from asking how the audition went. It creates too much pressure.
  6. Acknowledge and make their feelings matter.
  7. Direct their attention to something positive.
  8. Explain it is NOT personal.
  9. Celebrate auditions and call-backs!
  10. Celebrate bookings with a fun activity of your child’s choice (to a point LOL)
  11. Tell them you are proud of their dedication.
  12. Tell them you love them not matter if they book the job or not!

Good luck out there! Please leave a comment!

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Mae Ross Starting her professional career at the age of 10, with a 64 city tour of “The Music Man”, Ms. Mae Ross 3-2-1- Acting Studios’ Owner/Artistic Director was born to sing, dance, act, and model. It wasn’t long before she was full swing into a performing career that would take her from National Campaigns, roles on stage, film, and television to producing one of Hollywood’s finest young actors Talent Showcase. Yet her greatest passion in life was still ahead of her… Ms. Mae, as her students fondly call her, is most proud of her 20 years of working with children, teens and young adults to build greater confidence, discipline and to launch successful entertainment industry careers. “I love helping students reach their full potential.” In 2007 Ms. Mae opened 3-2-1- where she continues her life’s passion guiding young actors to develop and showcase their unique talent through her signature Showcase and Acting Career Program.

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